I just think it is and added stress to fall to the programming of beating yourself up about something you do. You don't need to beat yourself up to find motivation to change habits or develop new ones in my opinion and experience.

Death is depressing largely in the west and that all comes from our programmed beliefs on it also.

My experience has shown me that if I don't want to see someone do something is cause it reminds me of something I do. One way or another, in one form or another. Its a judgment and all judgments cause pain and they are all a reflection of an unmet need in my opinion and experience when and IF I look inside.

A woman brought her son to Ghandi and asked him to tell her son not to eat sugar. Ghandi said come back in two weeks. The woman came back 2 weeks later and he told her son not to eat sugar. She asked why the two weeks. He said, two weeks ago I was eating sugar.

I would think taking that a step further.

Smoking is an addiction, habit, and self destructive. When I can find no addictions in my life, no bad habits, and when I find nothing I do as self destructive...then I will say "You shouldn't smoke." or think "They are not very good cause they do this..."

Of course my ego does say those things at times but my conscious awareness is to move away from the judgment of others as when I look inside it is always a judgment of self as I always have the same or similar issue. Once I no longer have that issue (my experience is what we speak is what we need to hear - you shouldn't smoke = I shouldn't smoke -or have this habit, addiction, destructive behavior etc) then I'll judge.

At least that is my intention..

I do judge and I accept that part of me. That ego part that learned to judge from my experiences growing up.

They have done studies now where cells and DNA are taken and put in a culture dish. They have the individual that they were taken from have positive and negative thoughts. The DNA literally unwind and wind.

There is hard science that our thoughts and emotions directly and immediatly effect every cell in the body.

I am not saying smoking doesn't do damage. I am saying if you smoke and beat yourself up about it (cause you were programmed to judge) you will do even more damage.

You DO NOT need to get upset at self to make changes. You DO NOT need to judge to move in a positive direction. We live in judgment. We learned it from our parents and from school and from church. it is the way modern western society operates.

I can show you in about a minute that your body reacts instantly to your thoughts, judgments and emotions. Judgment on self and on others (all external conflict is a reflection of internal conflict) causes damage is what I am saying.

Damage from smoking doesn't need damage from judgment.

One can make changes with out being shamed.

Judgments stem from fear and share.

They will actually increase stress and strengthen many an addiction.

At least these are my opinions at present. ;)