I can see what your saying about looking after the kids etc...
Some people have the attitude thats its a "dog eat dog" world, and its survival of the fittest. Other people are trying to nurture in a softer manner and manage around excessive contact. Horses for courses.

I understand where Sandy is coming from and it is obviously hard to legislate something so subjective. However, if the people entering interclubs havent been "pressure tested" in the gym, then they are going to fold at the first sign of a challenge when matched against someone they dont know.

I think I remember on one of Sandys requests/invites to his interclub, he asked for people to note along with name,age,weight whether they were strong/average/weak (in the best possible sense)...thus ensuring he got decent match-up. Now instructors will be aware of who is "game" and who likes to spar lightly etc, so this should be an easy assessment to make. It will also direct the instructor to actually have a look at the people they are putting in, rather than just throwing in anyone and everyone as part of the "money-making scheme" some see this as.