I like this post too, and agree with Kosmos/Claire that it is down to common sense. Physically men will be stronger than women and it all comes down to respect and control. There are guys who are 'lighter' when they are sparring with a girl, and that's all very sweet, it is down to the girl to say 'I don't mind if you hit me harder, I'm here to learn'. Having said that, I have had guys who have lost the plot, going all out, forgetting all technique and are obviously there to prove something. I wonder if they have d*cks the size of pencils.

A QUESTION TO THE GIRLS - have you ever encountered a fellow female who doesn't mind being hit hard by men, but complain when you hit them hard? It is the most annoying thing to deal with. It is such a downer--we should be encouraging and supporting other women. It's a sad fact but jealousies and insecurities can't always be left behind outside the gym door.

At the end of the day, we're all dealing with different personalities, but we are in a martial arts club. I love sparring and don't expect to be treated any differently, if one gets hit hard, just grin and bear it and give back what you're getting. Like what my instructor says - 'this is not a cooking class!'

I wish we can eventually move away from stereotyping, like pretty girls are not expected to fight well (i bet some of the ring girls can kick ass), or someone who looks a bit... uh... different is expected to fight like a beast. I digress. This could be a new post!