I agree with you Marco S, the person i'm writing about is an extreme case of the "big ego" to make up for personal inadequacies, only with her it's through passive aggression therefore making it a lot creepier. It's so extreme it's like a cartoon, and seeing this thread inspired me to write an article on it on my site, which is in my profile. I think women can make the dojo atmosphere a lot more stressful for everyone on this point, men don't seem to have this problem.

Example 1, one time I said it's cold to my sensei and she RUNS from the other side of the room to close the door that was right behind me.

Example 2, practices ends and she regularly BOLTS out the door down the stairs out the building to put away the advertising sign of our dojo in its place in the alley way.

Example 3, our sensei usually makes minimal movement to counter us in sparring because he's a real professional and is able to make the right response at the right time with least effort. He's a MASTER. She tries to imitate that and just stand completely still as she's punched and kicked and then she loses control and gets upset.

Example 4, when practice ends we say "osu, arigatou-gozaimashita" to our sensei then senpai in turn, and with her she says it very loud and with verbratto.

I think some people treat martial arts like it's a holy experience, and it is in many respects. But like world religions, the zealots are the scariest of the whole bunch.